Is It Selfish to Do a Destination Wedding?

By Robert Palmer

When it comes to planning a wedding, couples often struggle to balance the wishes of their families with the desires of the couple. Destination weddings add a whole new layer of complexity.

On one hand, it can be incredibly romantic and exciting for the couple, but on the other hand, it can be difficult for family and friends to attend or not feel included. So is it selfish to do a destination wedding?

The answer depends on many factors. The first and most important factor is the budget.

If you are able to afford to pay for your guests’ flights and accommodations, then a destination wedding may not be selfish at all. You will be putting in extra effort and money in order to ensure that your loved ones can join you on your special day.

Another factor to consider is how close you are with your family and friends. If you have an extremely close-knit circle of loved ones, then they may be more understanding if a destination wedding is out of their budget or too much of an inconvenience. They will likely still make the effort to join you, even if it means sacrificing some other plans.

Finally, consider how much you want your family and friends to be part of your day. If having them present is essential for you and your fiancée’s big day, then a destination wedding may not be the best option since it could leave some people feeling excluded or left out.


Ultimately, whether or not it is selfish to do a destination wedding depends on each couple’s individual situation. Couples should carefully consider their budget, how important their loved ones’ presence is on their special day, and how understanding those closest to them are when making this decision.